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Leslie Cagle meets with other members of the Pensacola Young Professionals
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Leslie Cagle is a single modern
woman. She moved here from
Birmingham, Ala., in 2005 and was
having trouble with decent social
encounters.
“I would say there are not a lot
of ways to meet people. The social
scene is the clubs or the Fish House
on the deck,” said Cagle, 30, who
was searching for an alternative way
to meet men and friends.
Pensacola has many perks, but its
limited social scene is a problem.
Thanks to some innovative
Pensacolians, Cagle, and single
women all over the area can meet
potential mates or friends while
having fun, contributing to the
community or just getting into
shape.
Bella Magazine gathered some
suggestions for a getting back in
the social scene after finding
yourself suddenly single.
HEART CERTIFICATION, ANYONE?
Disillusioned with the bar-scene,
Cagle discovered a great alternative
for meeting men: Pensacola Young
Professionals group. This
organization, dubbed simply PYP, is
not a singles group, but it is
filled bright and talented men and
women in her age and social bracket.
“I thought it would be a great
way to meet people and get
involved,” she said. “I have met
males and a lot of strong
professional women.”
“There is a good mix of singles
and married people between the ages
of 21 to 40,” said Member Services
Coordinator Summer Burdick. “I have
made good friends by being on the
board.”
The 200-plus member organization
allows you to earn a personal
credential in humanity and community
development. And it is perfect for
the young professional who wants to
make a positive change in the
community.
This group is for anyone who is a
professional but there is a yearly
membership fee of $100, said
Burdick, 24.
Aside from expanding her social
network, Cagle said the group helps
her “make a difference” in
Pensacola.
So far, the group has held
homebuyer seminars and adopted the
Everwood community among other
community-driven programs. They will
have a membership and blood drive
meeting 5:30 p.m. July 10 at the
Cathedral of Sacred Heart, 1212 E.
Moreno St.
To join Pensacola Young
Professionals, contact the Pensacola
Chamber of Commerce or Summer
Burdick at 850-438-4081.
SOME IMPERSONAL EXCHANGE
If you’re seriously on the hunt for
a mate, try the Pensacola Singles
Line. While it will help meet new
men, it’s more like a shot in the
dark. You create a voice profile and
somebody will get in contact with
you. There is no screening process,
and you may encounter a few psychos
and a few sane people: You just
never know.
If this is not for you, then
Internet dating as offered by cupid/
predating.com is a lot more
structured. The Web site allows you
to meet singles and sign up for
speed dating at Zea’s Restaurant at
605 E. Gregory St. in Pensacola.
“It is a very classy way to know
if there is chemistry or not,” event
coordinator Tammy Doverspike said.
“Also, unlike most dates, six
minutes into the [date] you get a
new partner.”
This arrangement can be a
delight, if your date turns into a
dud. You get your feet wet without a
formal commitment. And you can enjoy
different personalities.
Men rotate the 10 tables of women
throughout the night in a private
room, which is tailored to be
romantic without being a breeding
ground for stalkers and rubber-neckers.
Speed-daters discreetly keep score
on each other and later look up the
person online when they get home.
“We had a couple of weddings
already in 2006 and not just from
the speed dating,” said Doverspike,
37. “Women on the Web site have also
found their mate on the Internet.”
Each month has a different age
group between 25 and 55, so if you
miss your age group you have to wait
at least a month for your next age
event.
The next event is July 31 at 6:45
p.m. at Zea’s Restaurant for ages 35
to 45. To sign-up, you can visit
cupid/
predating.com or call Doverspike at
850-934-6092.
The Path to his heart
If the idea of a private grading
system is too much for your first
dating experience, join a club that
combines meeting people with an
activity.
McGuire’s Running Club gives your
love-muscle a work out every Tuesday
at 6 p.m. Headed by Les Roberts, the
running club boasts 1,086 members,
of all ages and from different
walks, of life who are long-distance
runners or walkers of a 3.19-mile
route that starts and ends at the
restaurant. Some great perks for
being with the club are a free
buffet, a free T-shirt after the
sixth run, and your beer is
discounted to $4. You can sign up by
visiting the Web site at
mcguiresirishpub.com and click on
McGuire’s Run Club.
For a more relaxed approach to
fitness socializing, try Seville
Quarter Milers. There is no signup
but Special Events and Marketing
representative Susi Lyon said, “You
show up and you can run. I know a
lot of friendships have formed that
may lead to romance.”
The runners and walkers of this
group range from 24 to 65. They meet
outside of Seville Quarter at 5:20
p.m.
Both groups give you a choice to
go the distance or go back and order
some sustenance after a mile or two.
If you are not into running,
Pensacola Singles Sailing club is
also a great way to learn to sail
and meet new people. They take
sailing trips and have fish fry
parties. Visit the Web site at
pensacolasinglessailingclub.com.
YOU NEVER KNOW
Monica Chambers, a Pensacola
resident who returned to her
hometown after 13 years, returned to
the club scene after trying all
sorts of avenues to meeting men,
including speed dating.
“I tried the speed dating, and I
have not met anyone I want to spend
the rest of my life with yet, but
you never know who will be the right
one,” said Chambers, 34, an account
executive with WALA Fox 10 TV.
“The (singles scene) has kind of
gotten better,” she said. “I go to
Bamboo Willie’s (on Pensacola
Beach), and there is a good mix of
ethnicities, different ages and all
kinds of people.’’
In the meantime, friends are
constantly setting her up with guys,
and she is glad.
“I make connections. It is all
about making connections, and you
never know who knows who,” Chambers
said.
With these great options for
single life, you can choose to
either never be single again or have
fun being single.
If you tire of the singles scene
altogether, there is nothing wrong
with curling up with a good romance
novel.
TIPS FOR GETTING BACK INTO THE
SINGLE LIFE
- Make sure your body language is
saying what you want it to say.
- Accept all safe invites, and make
sure someone you know knows where
you are going for the night or who
you will be with.
- Take separate cars in case he
turns out to be a jerk, and you need
to leave quickly.
- Keep an open mind.
- Don’t lead someone on
intentionally or unintentionally.
- Have fun.
- Be yourself.
- Opening lines never work, but
conversational topics always do.
- Don’t be afraid to buy the first
drink.
- Don’t be afraid to let him chase
you.
- Don’t forget to find out about
your date as well as letting him
know a little something about you.
- Compliments are easy and simple
and can be lavished without
restraint.
- Be adventurous but safe.
- Don’t be afraid to flirt.
- Don’t get hung up on Mr. Right or
even Mr. Right Now, just enjoy
yourself. |